"Character is, for the most part,simply habit become fixed." C. H. Parkhurst
character is something that everyone has to work on to have good charcter, overtime these actions and behaviors become habits and eventually one doesn't have to think about how they are acting or behaving. character is the essence of one's being; it defines who one is.
Monday, April 27, 2009
lessons learned
Lessons Learned
It was 2:30 in the morning and all I could hear were crickets chirping and the settling of the house. My dad had grown restless and gone on a late night walk around the neighborhood. Before I knew it, it was 3:30 a.m. and there was still no sign of him. I heard a loud bang and tires screech as someone sped down the street. I hear a very familiar voice yell "help! I've been shot!" I frantically jump out of bed and run down the hall to see what had happened when all of the sudden it hit me that my dad had been shot in my own front yard. After about forty five minutes of dealing with cops the scariest moment of my life happened, watching my dad leave in an ambulance not knowing if I would ever see him alive again or if the next time I would see him would be in a casket.
I was terrified at that moment because I knew that I was the reason that he couldn't sleep, I was the reason that he had taken that late night walk and if he were to die that night it would be entirely my fault. Before I had gone to bed that night I had argued with my dad for hours, it felt like it would never end. I told him of everything that I didn't like about him, I didn't hold anything back. I told him of how I hated him and that I wish I would have never had to live with him, that I would have rather never known who my father was then for me to have to see him on a daily basis. I can still see his face when I told him he was a sorry excuse for a father earlier that night, but as I sat and watched him bleeding to death in my front yard unable to move any of his limbs I regretted every word that I said to him just hours before. My grandma would always share quotes with me, most of them were from the bible but others were from the books that she had read. One of her favorites was “Never part without loving words to think of during your absence. It may be that you will not meet again in this life” by Jean Paul Richter. (Richter) That entire night while I was waiting to see if he would make it through the night that quote in particular kept playing over and over again in my head, almost like a broken tape player.
I couldn't help but think that if I had thought before I spoke or if I had just handled things more rationally that my dad would have been in bed sleeping like a baby and would have been spared. Instead he was laying in my front yard, yelling in pain, his clothes were drenched in sweat, and blood covered his entire stomach. I rushed to get a pillow and cover him in blankets to keep him from going into shock. The whole time I was thinking if I hadn't been such a teenage drama queen about not being able to go stay at a friend’s house that night this would have never happened. I had taken my dad and all he had done for me for granted. I got lucky and got to see my dad alive after hours and hours of surgery and many close calls of almost losing my dad that night.
Sitting alone in the waiting room at the hospital it hit me; I could walk out of those glass sliding doors knowing that I will never again see my father alive and that it is completely my fault. I was the spoiled brat that got anything and everything that I wanted, and if I didn’t I would through a temper tantrum until I did; but this time to my surprise my dad didn’t, and wouldn’t, give in. As the doctor walked in the door and informed me that my dad had made it through the night and would indeed, with time, be ok but possibly would never walk again I thought about how my childish actions had almost cost me my one and only father. I thought of how I was only thinking of myself that night; that I didn’t care about how my dad would take everything that I was yelling at him.
My actions that night took a great deal from dad; he now has half a liver, one kidney, and is buried under massive amounts of hospital bills along with the many bills from the numerous amounts of doctor visits he had to go to. After almost a year of physical therapy and other minor surgeries my dad finally started to be able to walk with the help of a walker and eventually with a cane.
“Most human beings have an absolute and infinite capacity for taking things for granted” (Huxley) That night, not only did I take my dad for granted, but I didn’t stop to think about anyone other than myself. I got a second chasnce to really appreciate my dad and all that he has done and continues to do for me every day. I had to learn the hard way not to take anything for granted, that at any moment anything could be taken away from me, even my own father. “It made me have a much greater understanding of loss, of loneliness, and the level of intense tragedy that so many people have experienced in this world, I take a lot less for granted.” Adrien Brody (Brody)
Writer’s Memo
This essay is really personal to me and was extremely emotional for me to write about. I really had a hard time going back into the moment without completely sucked into all of the many events that happened. I had a really hard time trying to piece together my paper and all of the events of the night that I wanted to mention. I really struggled with the begging and then again with my conclusion. I also had a really hard time finding quotes that I hadn’t been told by grandmother. This essay was just really difficult for me overall.
Works Cited
Brody, Adrien. "Adrien Brody Quotes." 2007. 5 Feb 2009.
Huxley, Aldous. "Take for Granted Quotes." 2006. 5 Feb 2009
Richter, John Paul. "Inspirational quotes Dealing with People." 2008. 5 Feb 2009.
It was 2:30 in the morning and all I could hear were crickets chirping and the settling of the house. My dad had grown restless and gone on a late night walk around the neighborhood. Before I knew it, it was 3:30 a.m. and there was still no sign of him. I heard a loud bang and tires screech as someone sped down the street. I hear a very familiar voice yell "help! I've been shot!" I frantically jump out of bed and run down the hall to see what had happened when all of the sudden it hit me that my dad had been shot in my own front yard. After about forty five minutes of dealing with cops the scariest moment of my life happened, watching my dad leave in an ambulance not knowing if I would ever see him alive again or if the next time I would see him would be in a casket.
I was terrified at that moment because I knew that I was the reason that he couldn't sleep, I was the reason that he had taken that late night walk and if he were to die that night it would be entirely my fault. Before I had gone to bed that night I had argued with my dad for hours, it felt like it would never end. I told him of everything that I didn't like about him, I didn't hold anything back. I told him of how I hated him and that I wish I would have never had to live with him, that I would have rather never known who my father was then for me to have to see him on a daily basis. I can still see his face when I told him he was a sorry excuse for a father earlier that night, but as I sat and watched him bleeding to death in my front yard unable to move any of his limbs I regretted every word that I said to him just hours before. My grandma would always share quotes with me, most of them were from the bible but others were from the books that she had read. One of her favorites was “Never part without loving words to think of during your absence. It may be that you will not meet again in this life” by Jean Paul Richter. (Richter) That entire night while I was waiting to see if he would make it through the night that quote in particular kept playing over and over again in my head, almost like a broken tape player.
I couldn't help but think that if I had thought before I spoke or if I had just handled things more rationally that my dad would have been in bed sleeping like a baby and would have been spared. Instead he was laying in my front yard, yelling in pain, his clothes were drenched in sweat, and blood covered his entire stomach. I rushed to get a pillow and cover him in blankets to keep him from going into shock. The whole time I was thinking if I hadn't been such a teenage drama queen about not being able to go stay at a friend’s house that night this would have never happened. I had taken my dad and all he had done for me for granted. I got lucky and got to see my dad alive after hours and hours of surgery and many close calls of almost losing my dad that night.
Sitting alone in the waiting room at the hospital it hit me; I could walk out of those glass sliding doors knowing that I will never again see my father alive and that it is completely my fault. I was the spoiled brat that got anything and everything that I wanted, and if I didn’t I would through a temper tantrum until I did; but this time to my surprise my dad didn’t, and wouldn’t, give in. As the doctor walked in the door and informed me that my dad had made it through the night and would indeed, with time, be ok but possibly would never walk again I thought about how my childish actions had almost cost me my one and only father. I thought of how I was only thinking of myself that night; that I didn’t care about how my dad would take everything that I was yelling at him.
My actions that night took a great deal from dad; he now has half a liver, one kidney, and is buried under massive amounts of hospital bills along with the many bills from the numerous amounts of doctor visits he had to go to. After almost a year of physical therapy and other minor surgeries my dad finally started to be able to walk with the help of a walker and eventually with a cane.
“Most human beings have an absolute and infinite capacity for taking things for granted” (Huxley) That night, not only did I take my dad for granted, but I didn’t stop to think about anyone other than myself. I got a second chasnce to really appreciate my dad and all that he has done and continues to do for me every day. I had to learn the hard way not to take anything for granted, that at any moment anything could be taken away from me, even my own father. “It made me have a much greater understanding of loss, of loneliness, and the level of intense tragedy that so many people have experienced in this world, I take a lot less for granted.” Adrien Brody (Brody)
Writer’s Memo
This essay is really personal to me and was extremely emotional for me to write about. I really had a hard time going back into the moment without completely sucked into all of the many events that happened. I had a really hard time trying to piece together my paper and all of the events of the night that I wanted to mention. I really struggled with the begging and then again with my conclusion. I also had a really hard time finding quotes that I hadn’t been told by grandmother. This essay was just really difficult for me overall.
Works Cited
Brody, Adrien. "Adrien Brody Quotes." 2007. 5 Feb 2009
Huxley, Aldous. "Take for Granted Quotes." 2006. 5 Feb 2009
Richter, John Paul. "Inspirational quotes Dealing with People." 2008. 5 Feb 2009
what motivates me?
What Motivates Me
What motivates me? That’s a good question, I never really thought about what motivates me until that question was asked. I guess the answer to what motivates me is my family, but not in the typical motivation someone would get from their family, but instead because I can see all the things that they struggle with daily and I don’t want to struggle like them for the rest of my life.
I have two sisters that are older than me, one 9 years older and one 7 years older. I see my oldest sister living at a house that is crumbling around her because she didn’t want to go to college and was stuck at job with no job security. Today she is jobless and trying to raise a family off of her husband’s salary that he gets working a rent a center. My other sister works at Dillard’s where she doesn’t make enough to support herself and pay her bills, she struggles and is constantly coming back home to eat because she can’t afford to buy food. I don’t want to be like that when I’m almost 30 years old.
My dad is 52 years old with no job, he relies on my mom and I to pay the bills or just get the basic necessities that we plus my little brother need. He never went to college and worked at dealership after dealership until there were so many layoffs he just couldn’t find a job. What motivates me most is the fact that he hasn’t had a job in over a year and now even though he is looking he is getting passed over for job opportunities because he doesn’t have a college degree.
My worst fear when I’m older is to be anything like my two older sisters and my father. I want to be able to support myself; I want to know that I can raise a family and be able to support them. My dad has put all of the responsibility on my mom and I. My motivation is my family and seeing all that they go through on a daily basis, I want more then what they have!
What motivates me? That’s a good question, I never really thought about what motivates me until that question was asked. I guess the answer to what motivates me is my family, but not in the typical motivation someone would get from their family, but instead because I can see all the things that they struggle with daily and I don’t want to struggle like them for the rest of my life.
I have two sisters that are older than me, one 9 years older and one 7 years older. I see my oldest sister living at a house that is crumbling around her because she didn’t want to go to college and was stuck at job with no job security. Today she is jobless and trying to raise a family off of her husband’s salary that he gets working a rent a center. My other sister works at Dillard’s where she doesn’t make enough to support herself and pay her bills, she struggles and is constantly coming back home to eat because she can’t afford to buy food. I don’t want to be like that when I’m almost 30 years old.
My dad is 52 years old with no job, he relies on my mom and I to pay the bills or just get the basic necessities that we plus my little brother need. He never went to college and worked at dealership after dealership until there were so many layoffs he just couldn’t find a job. What motivates me most is the fact that he hasn’t had a job in over a year and now even though he is looking he is getting passed over for job opportunities because he doesn’t have a college degree.
My worst fear when I’m older is to be anything like my two older sisters and my father. I want to be able to support myself; I want to know that I can raise a family and be able to support them. My dad has put all of the responsibility on my mom and I. My motivation is my family and seeing all that they go through on a daily basis, I want more then what they have!
How a Father Figure Shapes a Child's Life (final)
Mary Cooke
Final Draft
April 27, 2009
How a Father Figure Shapes a Child’s Life
Father’s, or some form of a father figure, play important roles in shaping a child’s life; there are many things that a child learns from their fathers at different stages in their life, fathers teach their children certain things that a mother cannot. It is extremely important that a child have a father, or some form of a father figure in their life; if a child is left without a father figure the odds will be stacked against them and make simple things in life difficult and things that would be hard by normal standards seem impossible.
The effects of not having a father or father figure can be noticed almost immediately for a child. Small children learn how to solve problems from their father, as well as how to get along with others. (Civitas) In fact, most of the things that we learn when we are little come from our fathers, not our mothers. If we never learn how to share or how to solve a simple problem when we are younger what will we do when we get older and are out of adolescence into adulthood? Fathers teach specific characteristics to their children and without these simple things a child’s life can truly be turned upside down by the time they reach adulthood. “It really is fathers who can have a major influence on helping their children build strong social relationships during childhood and later in life” (Civitas). A fatherless child automatically has the odds stacked against them for a much harder life. There was a study done that “found that primary school children scored higher on tests of empathy-the ability to see a situation from another person's viewpoint-if they had secure attachments to their fathers during infancy. These children were able to recognize how other children felt and took steps to make them feel better” (Civitas). Fathers are the ones that teach these traits to their children, if a child doesn’t learn how to solve a simple problem this could cause a huge problem later in life for the child as a teen or even into adulthood.
If a child continues on to their teen years without a father figure the effects of being fatherless will get more detrimental: “not having a father figure makes teens more vulnerable to mental or emotional problems, teen pregnancy, criminal behavior, and drug abuse” (Magellan Health Services). These are not all of the effects that growing up fatherless can cause but they are the most common and most easy to recognize among the different side effects. Of course there are differences if the father is present part time or completely absent or even if he is there physically but does not know how to emotionally be there for his child or children. There is also a difference of how it will affect the child depending on race, and even on how the family is economically. There are facts such as “: fatherless children are up to 10 times more likely to be economically disadvantaged, twice as likely to drop out of school, more likely to commit crimes or to behave antisocially, and 2 to 3 times more likely to have emotional problems.” As well as, “According to one study, 80 percent of imprisoned criminals come from fatherless homes as do 82 percent of pregnant teens. Fatherless children are also at a significantly increased risk for drug abuse as teenagers. For example, girls without fathers are 40 percent more likely to abuse drugs” (Magellan Health Services). Children that come from fatherless homes are more likely to go down the wrong path as they enter their teen years. The percentage of a child coming out of a fatherless home unscathed is slim to none; although it is not impossible.
Magellan Health Services also mentions that amount and level of involvement in a teen’s upbringing can affect the teen's mental well-being, perceptual abilities, and social skills. An adult in today’s society without any social skills will sink rapidly in today’s workforce. Having social skills is imperative for success in any work force; from waiting tables, to secretary, to being the CEO of a fortune five hundred company, social skills are one of the most important characteristics one needs to be successful and also one of the many things that a child learns from their father. In “The Role of the Father in the Family” the author states that having a good father child relationship can positively affect the child and how they do in school, and that it could also have a negative effect on the child as well. “School achievements in children
may be negatively effected in the absence of a good father-child relationship. Father influence can affect the choice of occupations, preferred school subjects, and role development of their children” (The Role of the Father in the Family). This shows that a father figure determines and influences the rest of that child’s life, fathers influence what a child will one day grow up to become.
I realize that not all children that come from fatherless homes or grow up with no father figure present in their lives’ will drop out of school, have teenage pregnancies, be incarcerated, abuse drugs and/or alcohol, abuse their children one day, grow up and be in poverty for the rest of their life, or have mental or emotional problems but the likely hood of this occurring is much higher. The percentage of incarcerated adults that come from fatherless homes is extremely high at 80 percent as well as teenage pregnancy at 82 percent: which shows that a large percentage of children and teens growing up fatherless are affected by it (Magellan Health Services).
All of the different effects that growing up without a father figure truly shocked me when I started to look further into the research, but what shocked me the most were the percentages of the effects of growing up fatherless and how much it could actually change your life from infancy even to teenage years for a child and lead them into adulthood heading in the wrong direction. The one fact that stuck out the most for me or that was most shocking to me was, “Of the 228 students studied, those from single-parent families reported higher rates of drinking and smoking as well as higher scores on delinquency and aggression tests when compared to boys from two-parent households” (National Fatherhood Initiative) I didn’t really think that only having one parent present in the home, not regarding if it were the mother of father, would have that much of an impact on a child’s life as then went into adult hood.
There are facts such as a child in a fatherless home are five times more likely to be poor when they grow up, mortality rates for women that are unwed are almost 2 times higher for infants, they have significantly higher odds of being incarcerated, and that there is a significantly higher rate of drug use in children without a father figure (National Fatherhood Initiative). Having a father figure is imperative to a child having any kind of success in their adulthood, whether it is in the work force, college, or even as they try to start a family and raise a child of their very own. Whether or not they had their father to guide them through life will influence a great deal of their decisions from their career path all the way to how they treat and raise their children.
It was also present that those teens with more active fathers are more compassionate later in life. A child having someone to look up to as their father is crucial to their upbringing in today’s society; the odds of a child coming from a fatherless background and having little to no affect is very unlikely, but not completely impossible either. The amount of interaction between the father and the child is just as important as having a father figure around.
In conclusion I believe that having a father figure is very important in the development of a child. A father figure will set the stage of child’s future as an adult and even affect how they will raise their family. One child having a father figure will influence the lives of their children and their grand children. Granted that not all children that grow up fatherless are going to suffer from all of the possible side effects but a great deal of the children that grow up without a father figure in their life are affected. Father’s play a huge role in what their child can and will do in their lifetime.
Works Cited
Civitas, "How Do Fathers Fit In?." Civitas: the Institute for the Study of Civil Society 22 Mar 2009.
Magellan Health Services, "The Importance of Father Figures in a teen's life." 2009. Magellan Health Services, Inc. 22 Mar 2009.
National Fatherhood Initiative, "The Father Factor: Facts of Fatherhood." National Fatherhood Initiative. 1994. National Fatherhood Initiative™. 22 Mar 2009.
"The Role of the Father in the Family." 22 Mar 2009.
Final Draft
April 27, 2009
How a Father Figure Shapes a Child’s Life
Father’s, or some form of a father figure, play important roles in shaping a child’s life; there are many things that a child learns from their fathers at different stages in their life, fathers teach their children certain things that a mother cannot. It is extremely important that a child have a father, or some form of a father figure in their life; if a child is left without a father figure the odds will be stacked against them and make simple things in life difficult and things that would be hard by normal standards seem impossible.
The effects of not having a father or father figure can be noticed almost immediately for a child. Small children learn how to solve problems from their father, as well as how to get along with others. (Civitas) In fact, most of the things that we learn when we are little come from our fathers, not our mothers. If we never learn how to share or how to solve a simple problem when we are younger what will we do when we get older and are out of adolescence into adulthood? Fathers teach specific characteristics to their children and without these simple things a child’s life can truly be turned upside down by the time they reach adulthood. “It really is fathers who can have a major influence on helping their children build strong social relationships during childhood and later in life” (Civitas). A fatherless child automatically has the odds stacked against them for a much harder life. There was a study done that “found that primary school children scored higher on tests of empathy-the ability to see a situation from another person's viewpoint-if they had secure attachments to their fathers during infancy. These children were able to recognize how other children felt and took steps to make them feel better” (Civitas). Fathers are the ones that teach these traits to their children, if a child doesn’t learn how to solve a simple problem this could cause a huge problem later in life for the child as a teen or even into adulthood.
If a child continues on to their teen years without a father figure the effects of being fatherless will get more detrimental: “not having a father figure makes teens more vulnerable to mental or emotional problems, teen pregnancy, criminal behavior, and drug abuse” (Magellan Health Services). These are not all of the effects that growing up fatherless can cause but they are the most common and most easy to recognize among the different side effects. Of course there are differences if the father is present part time or completely absent or even if he is there physically but does not know how to emotionally be there for his child or children. There is also a difference of how it will affect the child depending on race, and even on how the family is economically. There are facts such as “: fatherless children are up to 10 times more likely to be economically disadvantaged, twice as likely to drop out of school, more likely to commit crimes or to behave antisocially, and 2 to 3 times more likely to have emotional problems.” As well as, “According to one study, 80 percent of imprisoned criminals come from fatherless homes as do 82 percent of pregnant teens. Fatherless children are also at a significantly increased risk for drug abuse as teenagers. For example, girls without fathers are 40 percent more likely to abuse drugs” (Magellan Health Services). Children that come from fatherless homes are more likely to go down the wrong path as they enter their teen years. The percentage of a child coming out of a fatherless home unscathed is slim to none; although it is not impossible.
Magellan Health Services also mentions that amount and level of involvement in a teen’s upbringing can affect the teen's mental well-being, perceptual abilities, and social skills. An adult in today’s society without any social skills will sink rapidly in today’s workforce. Having social skills is imperative for success in any work force; from waiting tables, to secretary, to being the CEO of a fortune five hundred company, social skills are one of the most important characteristics one needs to be successful and also one of the many things that a child learns from their father. In “The Role of the Father in the Family” the author states that having a good father child relationship can positively affect the child and how they do in school, and that it could also have a negative effect on the child as well. “School achievements in children
may be negatively effected in the absence of a good father-child relationship. Father influence can affect the choice of occupations, preferred school subjects, and role development of their children” (The Role of the Father in the Family). This shows that a father figure determines and influences the rest of that child’s life, fathers influence what a child will one day grow up to become.
I realize that not all children that come from fatherless homes or grow up with no father figure present in their lives’ will drop out of school, have teenage pregnancies, be incarcerated, abuse drugs and/or alcohol, abuse their children one day, grow up and be in poverty for the rest of their life, or have mental or emotional problems but the likely hood of this occurring is much higher. The percentage of incarcerated adults that come from fatherless homes is extremely high at 80 percent as well as teenage pregnancy at 82 percent: which shows that a large percentage of children and teens growing up fatherless are affected by it (Magellan Health Services).
All of the different effects that growing up without a father figure truly shocked me when I started to look further into the research, but what shocked me the most were the percentages of the effects of growing up fatherless and how much it could actually change your life from infancy even to teenage years for a child and lead them into adulthood heading in the wrong direction. The one fact that stuck out the most for me or that was most shocking to me was, “Of the 228 students studied, those from single-parent families reported higher rates of drinking and smoking as well as higher scores on delinquency and aggression tests when compared to boys from two-parent households” (National Fatherhood Initiative) I didn’t really think that only having one parent present in the home, not regarding if it were the mother of father, would have that much of an impact on a child’s life as then went into adult hood.
There are facts such as a child in a fatherless home are five times more likely to be poor when they grow up, mortality rates for women that are unwed are almost 2 times higher for infants, they have significantly higher odds of being incarcerated, and that there is a significantly higher rate of drug use in children without a father figure (National Fatherhood Initiative). Having a father figure is imperative to a child having any kind of success in their adulthood, whether it is in the work force, college, or even as they try to start a family and raise a child of their very own. Whether or not they had their father to guide them through life will influence a great deal of their decisions from their career path all the way to how they treat and raise their children.
It was also present that those teens with more active fathers are more compassionate later in life. A child having someone to look up to as their father is crucial to their upbringing in today’s society; the odds of a child coming from a fatherless background and having little to no affect is very unlikely, but not completely impossible either. The amount of interaction between the father and the child is just as important as having a father figure around.
In conclusion I believe that having a father figure is very important in the development of a child. A father figure will set the stage of child’s future as an adult and even affect how they will raise their family. One child having a father figure will influence the lives of their children and their grand children. Granted that not all children that grow up fatherless are going to suffer from all of the possible side effects but a great deal of the children that grow up without a father figure in their life are affected. Father’s play a huge role in what their child can and will do in their lifetime.
Works Cited
Civitas, "How Do Fathers Fit In?." Civitas: the Institute for the Study of Civil Society 22 Mar 2009
Magellan Health Services, "The Importance of Father Figures in a teen's life." 2009. Magellan Health Services, Inc. 22 Mar 2009
National Fatherhood Initiative, "The Father Factor: Facts of Fatherhood." National Fatherhood Initiative. 1994. National Fatherhood Initiative™. 22 Mar 2009
"The Role of the Father in the Family." 22 Mar 2009
source 5- anotated bibiliography
Lerner, Richard. "Parenthood in America." The Role of the Father in the Family 1998 29 Mar 2009 http://parenthood.library.wisc.edu/Lerner/Lerner.html.
Richard Lerner has his PhD; Anita L. Brennan is a Professor of Education, Director, Center for Child, and Family and Community Partnerships from Boston College.
This piece touches on everything from the nature of parenting to the contextual development, to child rearing styles, socializing, and parent-adolescent relationships. It goes into more detail about dual parenting and whether the child is biological or adoptive then just focusing on parenting in relationship to the father figure. I really liked that this piece had some information on runaways and homeless children both with and without a mother and/or a father. There was information on the different “family structures” that also play a role in all of the different studies that they performed and how these different structures would affect the results of these studies.
This piece was overall helpful because it gave me further insight into my topic and gave many different views that were not present in other sources that I used. I found it was not extremely helpful because of its broad overview and most of the time did not relate just to the father but instead to the mother and father as a team.
The authors of this piece seem some involvement in their field that relates them to this piece but do not have tons of credentials to really back them up and make me feel 100 percent confident.
Richard Lerner has his PhD; Anita L. Brennan is a Professor of Education, Director, Center for Child, and Family and Community Partnerships from Boston College.
This piece touches on everything from the nature of parenting to the contextual development, to child rearing styles, socializing, and parent-adolescent relationships. It goes into more detail about dual parenting and whether the child is biological or adoptive then just focusing on parenting in relationship to the father figure. I really liked that this piece had some information on runaways and homeless children both with and without a mother and/or a father. There was information on the different “family structures” that also play a role in all of the different studies that they performed and how these different structures would affect the results of these studies.
This piece was overall helpful because it gave me further insight into my topic and gave many different views that were not present in other sources that I used. I found it was not extremely helpful because of its broad overview and most of the time did not relate just to the father but instead to the mother and father as a team.
The authors of this piece seem some involvement in their field that relates them to this piece but do not have tons of credentials to really back them up and make me feel 100 percent confident.
source 4- anotated bibliography
"The Role of the Father in the Family." 22 Mar 2009 http://info.ag.vt.edu/vce/offices/newsletters/role_of_father.pdf.
The author uses sources such as University of Idaho Cooperative Extension System – District IV Extension Educators and The Parent’s Handbook,Don Dinkmeyer & Gary D. McKay. They seem to have done their research, and to be very credible.
“The Role of the Father in The Family” has many different facts that I didn’t see in other sources. Facts such as a child’s academic achievement could suffer if there is a negative view of a father figure and that a father’s influence can affect the choice of occupations, preferred school subjects, and role development of their children. This piece goes much more in depth; it has facts on how a father’s own upbringing greatly affects how he will act as a father. This piece gives the “four basic ingredients for building a positive relationship.” These “ingredients” are mutual respect between the father and child, making time for fun where it is better to have quality time and quantity is not the main focus, to encourage your child and believe in them and communicate that to them, as well as communicating you love for them, which is the final “ingredient.” This piece also gives research that suggests that “fathers who have participated in the delivery do more with their newborn child than fathers who do not. These fathers tend to participate more in childcare also.”
This piece has many helpful sources in it that will help me with any extra research that I may need when writing my paper. I like that it goes into how a father already has his parenting style guided by how he was parented as a child, that this greatly influences how he will parent his child. It has facts from the child’s actual birth to the child going into adulthood which will be very helpful to me while I am writing my paper. There is also a list of the sources and many other books to look into with this piece.
I feel that the information that was used and presented in this information was reliable; there was an area at the bottom that was strictly a list of sources that were used to create the web page.
The author uses sources such as University of Idaho Cooperative Extension System – District IV Extension Educators and The Parent’s Handbook,Don Dinkmeyer & Gary D. McKay. They seem to have done their research, and to be very credible.
“The Role of the Father in The Family” has many different facts that I didn’t see in other sources. Facts such as a child’s academic achievement could suffer if there is a negative view of a father figure and that a father’s influence can affect the choice of occupations, preferred school subjects, and role development of their children. This piece goes much more in depth; it has facts on how a father’s own upbringing greatly affects how he will act as a father. This piece gives the “four basic ingredients for building a positive relationship.” These “ingredients” are mutual respect between the father and child, making time for fun where it is better to have quality time and quantity is not the main focus, to encourage your child and believe in them and communicate that to them, as well as communicating you love for them, which is the final “ingredient.” This piece also gives research that suggests that “fathers who have participated in the delivery do more with their newborn child than fathers who do not. These fathers tend to participate more in childcare also.”
This piece has many helpful sources in it that will help me with any extra research that I may need when writing my paper. I like that it goes into how a father already has his parenting style guided by how he was parented as a child, that this greatly influences how he will parent his child. It has facts from the child’s actual birth to the child going into adulthood which will be very helpful to me while I am writing my paper. There is also a list of the sources and many other books to look into with this piece.
I feel that the information that was used and presented in this information was reliable; there was an area at the bottom that was strictly a list of sources that were used to create the web page.
source 3- anotated bibliography
Civitas, "How Do Fathers Fit In?." Civitas: the Institute for the Study of Civil Society 22 Mar 2009 http://www.civitas.org.uk/hwu/fathers.php.
This site is based on studies that have been conducted as well as facts and statistics that have been collected from forty eight other sources that are all sited in a long list at the end of the document. This site is full of facts and many helpful sources.
This site tells you step by step in a child’s life what it is that a child should be learning in life lessons from their father. It has from the time they are babies to teens and what should be learned at each stage and what the consequences are if these needs are not met. For example for small children, they should learn how to solve problems and how to get along with others from who ever may be the father figure in their life. I learned that “It really is fathers who can have a major influence on helping their children build strong social relationships during childhood and later in life.” That most of the things that we learn when we are young are from our father and not our mothers and that if we don’t learn these from a “father figure” when we are young, that the rest of a child’s life could and will be affected by this early in life. There is a section of how father’s fit into the family and a section for every stage of life a child passes through. Another example that was used was “one study found that primary school children scored higher on tests of empathy-the ability to see a situation from another person's viewpoint-if they had secure attachments to their fathers during infancy. These children were able to recognize how other children felt and took steps to make them feel better.
This could help me because I can use this source to help me show the effects of having a father figure from infancy to adult hood with all of the possible outcomes for a troubled teen compared to that of the teen who has a positive father figure.
The writer uses 48 different references and sources; he goes into grave detail for every stage in a child’s life as well as how the father influences the family.
This site is based on studies that have been conducted as well as facts and statistics that have been collected from forty eight other sources that are all sited in a long list at the end of the document. This site is full of facts and many helpful sources.
This site tells you step by step in a child’s life what it is that a child should be learning in life lessons from their father. It has from the time they are babies to teens and what should be learned at each stage and what the consequences are if these needs are not met. For example for small children, they should learn how to solve problems and how to get along with others from who ever may be the father figure in their life. I learned that “It really is fathers who can have a major influence on helping their children build strong social relationships during childhood and later in life.” That most of the things that we learn when we are young are from our father and not our mothers and that if we don’t learn these from a “father figure” when we are young, that the rest of a child’s life could and will be affected by this early in life. There is a section of how father’s fit into the family and a section for every stage of life a child passes through. Another example that was used was “one study found that primary school children scored higher on tests of empathy-the ability to see a situation from another person's viewpoint-if they had secure attachments to their fathers during infancy. These children were able to recognize how other children felt and took steps to make them feel better.
This could help me because I can use this source to help me show the effects of having a father figure from infancy to adult hood with all of the possible outcomes for a troubled teen compared to that of the teen who has a positive father figure.
The writer uses 48 different references and sources; he goes into grave detail for every stage in a child’s life as well as how the father influences the family.
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